Author: Hari

Year without alcohol

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On New Year’s Eve 2016, after years of berating myself, I finally took the plunge and decided to stop drinking for a year.

My drinking wasn’t excessive, but it was enough to fill me with self-loathing and make me tearful and jittery the next day – even after just a couple of glasses. It was time to break ties.

Now, as any of you who have tried to give something up – whether it be short or long term – will know it’s pretty daunting. And, when it’s something like alcohol, something that the very fibre of our society hangs on, it’s tougher still.

I started by writing a list of 50 reasons to stop. I figured if I could find that many reasons then there was really no excuse to carry on. You can read that hastily scribbled list here. I choose a year because I wanted to give myself a fighting chance and ’forever felt too long, too final.

Here’s what I’ve learned…

1. I didn’t feel amazing instantly

The first question everyone asks when you stop drinking is ‘Do you feel amazing?’ For me, it was sadly a no. I had expected to leap out for bed looking fresh-faced and consumed with boundless energy, however that wasn’t the case. I envied friends who, after stopping for just a few days in January were already reporting feeling ‘100x better’. The energy took it’s time to arrive but now, a year on, I definitely feel I have more mental energy and am starting to think about what else is possible in my life.

2. Giving up for a year is easier than giving up for a month

I found that when I stopped for a month in the past, the social pressure to drink piled on. ‘You have to drink at XYZ,’ or ‘can’t you just add another week on at the end?’ As soon as I told people I was giving up for a year the pressure turned to congratulations. I lost count of the number of people who told me ‘I wish I could do it too.’

3. The booze-free market is booming

I’ve yet to find a credible replacement for wine – everything is too thin, too sweet – BUT there are plenty of great 0% beers out there that can act as a placebo in the early days and I can’t speak highly enough of Tesco’s Virgin G&T’s. Having forgotten what gin tastes like and having failed to get on the Seedlip bandwagon, I asked friends to road test the low alcohol G&T and it got thumbs up all round. At 0.5% alcohol it is technically a non-alcoholic drink but, if you wanted to split hairs, my argument would be that yes, there’s a hint of booze in it – enough to kill the FOMO but not enough to give you a hangover in the morning.

4. It’s a mindset

During the past year I’ve attended a two weddings (my brother’s and my best friend’s) a hen weekend in Palma and a week-long holiday in France with three other families. In the past just one of these events would have been a reason not to give up in 2017. But, I knew that if I kept finding social excuses it would never happen. At the start of the year it seemed impossible that I could attend or enjoy those events without alcohol. The truth is I enjoyed them all the more hangover-free. I reasoned that it was no-one else’s business what was in my glass, why should they care? And that thought, somehow, got me through.

5. You find out who you really are

After 20+ years of social drinking I wanted to know who I really was without it. That sounds a bit deep, right? I won’t lie, I was pretty disappointed to find that I felt sad and miserable most of the time – was that the lack of booze or had the booze been masking / exacerbating a deeper problem? In the summer I eventually visited the doctor to talk about depression. It turned out I had low iron storage which left me feeling permanently exhausted. Now, as long as I keep on top of that, I feel fine.

6. You are not alone

Aside from the public admiration of others I have been amazed by how many people have contacted me privately to say they have also given up drinking or are very close to it. One of the best things about this year has been inadvertently inspiring others. I promise you I am not anti-alcohol – I’ve always said that if alcohol doesn’t affect your life in a negative way then there’s no need to stop. But it’s messages like the one I received this morning (and that finally inspired me to write this blog) that make it all the sweeter; ‘With your inspiration I have decided to do a year booze-free. I am both excited and terrified at the prospect. I need to stop using it as my crutch and the fact I feel the amount I drink is creeping up gradually. I would never had contemplated this last New Year. I envied you when you posted as I didn’t think I could honestly go a week never mind a year. I am so scared but so excited for 2018. I have hid behind it for too long.’

7. You can do it, you really can

Nothing is impossible, certainly not what you choose to pour into a glass and then choose to pour into your mouth. There are a lot of people out there monetising this hot new trend (apparently the Millennials are turning their backs on booze in a big way) but you don’t need to pay to do it. Take one day at a time. One weekend at a time. One social event at a time. Don’t think of the bigger picture. Just get through each day and when you wake up feeling hangover-free, feel bloody proud of yourself and hang onto that feeling. You could also check out this free Club Soda Alcohol Free Facebook group.

8. I’m more confident now that I was before

Now this one surprised me. People drink to give them confidence but I see now that I used to hide behind alcohol and wouldn’t mix outside of my small circle. Now, when I’m out, I’ve found that I’m actually interested in having conversations with people – I honestly feel more confident now than I ever did before. Perhaps it’s not worrying about making a fool of myself. Maybe it’s knowing I won’t wake up with ‘the fear.’ Whatever it is, I love it.

9. Everyone wants to know…

‘Are you going to carry on?’ In January last year the thought of never drinking again was too big to contemplate, in some ways it still is. Over the past year I’ve battled backwards and forwards, sometimes feeling ‘ready’ to drink again in 2018, other times scared I’ll just fall back into the old bad habits. All I can say it that right now, waking up hangover and anxiety-free is enough of an incentive to carry on. As a new year approaches I’m thinking of new challenges – I want to get fit again, blog more… and that, is enough for me.


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पाठ्यक्रम प्रारुप पारित, कक्षा ११ र १२ एकल पथीय

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काठमाडौं – राष्ट्रिय पाठ्यक्रम प्रारुप पारित भएको छ । शुक्रबार शिक्षा मन्त्री गिरिराजमणि पोखरेलको अध्यक्षतामा बसेको राष्ट्रिय पाठ्यव्रmम विकास तथा मूल्याङ्कन परिषद्ले उक्त प्रारुप पारित गरेसँगै कक्षा ११ र १२ एकल पथीय भएको छ । कक्षा ११ र १२ मा नेपाली, अँग्रेजी, सामाजिक अध्ययन र जीवन उपयोगी शिक्षा गरि ४ विषय अनिवार्य रहने व्यवस्था गरिएको छ । यस्तै ती कक्षामा ३ विषय ऐच्छिक रहने छन् । कक्षा ९ र १० मा ५ वटा अनिबार्य र २ वटा ऐच्छिक विषय रहने व्यवस्था भएको छ । २ वटा ऐच्छिक विषय मध्ये एउटा विषय पेशा व्यवसायिक विषय हुने छ ।

विगत महिनामा भएको कार्य प्रगति सार्वजनिक गर्न शुक्रबार आयोजित पत्रकार सम्मेलनमा शिक्षा मन्त्री पोखरेलले नेपालको संविधान, शिक्षा ऐन र नियमावली अनुरुप हुने गरी राष्ट्रिय पाठ्यक्रम प्रारुप पारित गरेको बताए ।

मूलत हाम्रो संविधानले आत्मसात गरेको सामाजिक न्यायमा आधारित जनशक्ति निर्माण गर्न पाठ्यक्रममा आवश्यक सुधार गरिएको हो, मन्त्री पोखरेलले भने, देशलाइृ आवश्यक जनशक्ति कस्तो बनाउने भन्ने कुरा पाठ्यक्रमले निर्धारण गर्छ त्यो दिशामा हामी अघि बढेका हौं ।

उक्त पाठ्यक्रम प्रारुप अनुसार कक्षा ११ र १२ मा ऐच्छिक विषयहको छनोट गर्दा चार ऐच्छिक विषयहरू मध्ये कुुनै तिन विषयको छनोट विद्यार्थीको रूचि, आवश्यकता, उपलब्ध शिक्षक तथा स्रोत र साधनको आधारमा स्थानीय तहको समन्वयमा विद्यालयले गर्ने ब्यवस्था गरिएको छ । यसरी विषय छनोट गर्दा ऐच्छिक प्रथम, द्वितीय र तृतीयबाट एक एक विषय गरी जम्मा ३ विषय छनोट गर्नु पर्ने छ । दिइएका एक समूहबाट कुनै एक मात्र विषय छनोट गर्नु पर्ने छ । ऐच्छिक प्रथम विषय जुन समूहबाट छानिएको छ ऐच्छिक द्वितीय र तृतीय विषय पनि सोही समूहबाट छनोट गर्नु पर्ने छ ।

चार ऐच्छिक विषय मध्ये एक विषय (ऐच्छिक चतुर्थ) स्थानीय विषय हुने छ । यो विषय मूलत रोजगारमुलक तथा स्वरोजगारमुलक सीप आर्जनको लागि प्राविधिक तथा व्यवसायिक प्रकृतिको हुने छ । यो विषय स्थानीय आवश्यकताको आधारमा सम्बन्धित स्थानीय तहले आफै पाठ्यक्रम विकास गरी कार्यान्वयन गर्न सक्ने छ । तर पाठ्यक्रम संरचनामा दिइएका ऐच्छिक स्थानीय विषयले स्थानीय आवश्यकताको प्रतिनिधित्व गर्ने भएमा सो विषय छनोेट गरी अध्ययन अध्यापन…

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कोरियन भाषा परीक्षाको केन्द्र तोकियो (सूचीसहित) Exam Centre of EPS

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रोजगार अनुमति प्रणाली (ईपीएस) कोरिया शाखाले भाषा परीक्षाको मिति र केन्द्र सार्वजनिक गरेको छ । भाषा परीक्षा यही जेठ २६ र २७ गते हुने छ ।

काठमाडौं, ललितपुर र पोखराका बिभिन्न सेन्टरहरुबाट परीक्षा लिइने छ । त्यसका लागि २८ वटा केन्द्र तोकिएको छ ।

भाषा परीक्षा दुई सिफ्टमा हुनेछ । पहिलो सिफ्ट बिहान ८ बजेदेखि १० बजेसम्म र दोस्रो सिफ्ट १२ बजेदेखि ४ बजेसम्म हुने ईपीएस कोरिया शाखाले जनाएको छ ।

कामको लागि कोरिया जान इच्छुकहरुले भाषा परीक्षा उत्तीर्ण गर्नुपर्दछ । सन् २०१९ देखि भने सीप परीक्षण पनि अनिवार्य गरिने भएको छ ।

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1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)

2). Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses toyour family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other’s keeper.(Eph 5v12)

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don’t have a happy home.(Prov 15v13)

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you’ve no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like them, the person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.(Gen 2v24)

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband’s sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over theat duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long(even the anointed ones) (SS 7v12)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.(SS 5v9)

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don’t do that.(Eph 4v31)

14). Don’t forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam25v3)

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don’t waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.(Luke 21v16)

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don’t forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home. (Gal 6v9)

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork.(Gal 6v10)

21). Don’t be too judgemental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.(Eph 4v29)

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn’t even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food?, try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food. (Prov 31v14)

24). Never be too demanding to your husband,enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)

26). Don’t associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)

28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)

29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)

30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17)

Have a lovely day….. God bless u all.

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कस्तो बनाउन सकिन्छ कालीगण्डकी गाउँपालिका

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कस्तो बनाउन सकिन्छ कालीगण्डकी गाउँपालिका

समग्र कालीगण्डकी गाउँपालिकाको विकासका लागि बनाउन सकिने कार्यक्रमहरुः

 कालीगण्डकी गाउँपालिका रिङ्गरोड निर्माण (करेकुवा, आँधीमुहान, मिर्मी, बिर्घा, लसर्घा, कोटाकोट, छिस्दी, कालाओडार, प्युँघा खोर्दी, सटुका, टङ्गलेहवा, बारीचौर, बाँँस्टारी, बेल्टारी हुदै जैपते सम्म)

 धार्मिक एवं ऐतिहासिक स्थल आलमदेवीलाई महत्वपूर्ण पर्यटकिय गन्तव्य बनाउने ।

 रानीघाट – आलमदेवी – रुद«वेणी केबलकार निर्माण

 कालीगण्डकी जलयातायात ( मिर्मी – आँधिमुहान – सेतिवेणी स्तरोन्नती, रुद«वेणी – रिडी – बेल्टारी – राम्दी जलयातायातको सम्भाव्यता अध्ययन)

 प्याराग्लाइडिङको विकास (तम्किकोट – मिर्मी, मसार – लसर्घा बेसी)

 भ्यू टावर निर्माण (दब्छे र कोटाकोट गाउँमा एक–एकवटा)

 पार्क निर्माण (प्रत्येक वडामा पार्क तथा बाल उद्यान निर्माण)

 होमस्टे (इमसिल, दब्छे, आँधिमुहान, आलमदेवी, मसार, घुरडाँडा र प्युँघा)

 कालीगण्डकी ए जलविद्युत परियोजनाबाट प्राप्त रोयल्टी मुख्य प्रभावित यस पालिकामा निकासा गराउने ।

 पक्की पुल

 बेल्टारी – दरपुक

 टङ्गलेहवा – दैलातुङ्ग

 प्युँघा – छेरलुङ्ग

 आँधीमुहान – पाहरेदी

 बिर्घा – अरुवा – पाहाँदी

शैक्षिक क्षेत्रः

 मिर्मी बहुमुखी क्याम्पसको भवन निर्माण तथा स्नातकोत्तर तहको पढाइ संचालन गर्ने ।

 कालीगण्डकी क्याम्पसको स्तरोन्नति तथा आदर्श शैक्षिक ग्रामको विकास गर्ने ।

 आलमदेवी वाणिज्य क्याम्पसमा शैक्षिक कार्यक्रमको विस्तार गर्ने ।

 गाउँपालिका भित्रका आधारभूत तथा मा.वि. तहमा विद्यार्थीको सिकाइ उपलब्धी दर वृद्धि गर्ने कार्यक्रम संचालन गर्ने ।

 मिर्मीमा संभाव्यताको आधारमा इलेक्ट्रिकल, मेकानिकल, भेटेनरी जे. टि. ए., अ.न.मी. मध्ये एक, लसर्घामा कृषि तथा वन सम्बन्धी प्राविधिक शिक्षालयको स्थापना गर्ने ।

कृषि र सिंचाइः

 प्रत्येक वडामा कृषि उपज संकलन केन्द«को स्थापना

 कृषि हाट बजारको व्यवस्थापन

 वडा अनुरुप सम्भावनाको आधारमा पकेट क्षेत्र निर्माण, कृषि व्यवसायिकरणमा जोड

 युवा कृषि तथा पशुपालन कार्यक्रम

 कृषि तालिम, बिउ बिजन वितरण, गरिब र विपन्न वर्गको उत्थानका लागि बिना ब्याज ऋण, बिउ पूँजी तथा साझेदारी कार्यक्रम

 मिर्मी – बिर्घा – लसर्घा – कोटाकोट – प्युँघा – सटुका – बटीचौर – टङ्गलेहवा – बारीचौर – बाँस्टारी – बेल्टारी टारहरुको सिंचाइको संभाव्यता अध्ययन र विकास


 मिर्मी, बिर्घा तथा लसर्घामा कृषि र वनमा आधारित उद्योग ग्रामको स्थापना

 घरेलु तथा कुटिर उद्योगको विकास

 आरन तथा स–साना भाँडा उद्योगको व्यवस्थापन तथा आधुनिकीकरण


 गाउँपालिकाको पायक पर्ने क्षेत्रमा १५ शैयाको अस्पताल निर्माण

 गाउँपालिकाका माध्यमबाट स्वास्थ्य बिमा कार्यक्रम संचालन गर्ने ।

 वडा स्तरीय बर्थीङ सेन्टरको स्थापना

 मिर्मीमा सामुदायिक अस्पतालको निर्माण गर्ने ।


 गाउँपालिका भित्रको उपर्युक्त स्थानमा एफ.एम. रेडियो संचालन गर्ने ।

 उपर्युक्त स्थानमा भ(ष्दिचबचथ, सामुदायिक पुस्तकालय स्थापना गर्ने ।

 टेलिफोन टावरको क्षमता अभिवृद्धि गरि गाउँपालिका भित्र इन्टरनेट सेवाको विस्तार गर्ने ।

भाषा, कला र संस्कृतिः

 बिर्घा परासर मन्दिर, मिर्मी शिद्धेश्वर मन्दिरमा संस्कृत भाषा पाठशाला संचालन गर्ने ।

 मगर लगायत अन्य भाषाभाषी, जातजातिहरुको संस्कृति, कला र परम्पराको संरक्षण गर्ने ।


 कालीगण्डकी बी जलविद्युत परियोजनाको संभाव्यता अध्ययन

 आँधिखोला हाइड्यामको संचालनमा जोड


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